I never thought I would be able to move on from the guy with whom I fell in love. We were never exclusive, but we had developed a strong connection as friends, and my dating life completely changed. I thought for sure he would be the one for me, but as soon as I moved out of state, he ghosted me. Just like that, I was no longer in contact with him and was left devastated to pick up the broken pieces of my heart.
As much pain as I had felt from the lack of communication and closure, I knew my pain was the only thing motivating me to help me move on. I should have seen it coming, but I know it was my fault that I allowed myself to fall so deeply for a man who could not give me what I deserved. I did this to myself, and the only way to move forward is to deal with the pain. It took me six months of healing work, two months of therapy, and eight months of self-isolation to finally move on from my two years of unrequited love. As difficult as it was to deal with, I had no choice but to do it. I dealt with my pain, and I faced it head-on rather than running away from it.
Dealing with pain requires a lot of self-discipline and respect for yourself. You are not doing this for them. You are doing this for yourself because your heart is more precious than anything else in this world, and it is time to do the “healing” work.
I’m sure we have all been there before. Romantically liking someone who did not like us the same way back. Why do we do this ourselves? Is the chase worth the heartache? Why do we always want what we can’t have? What is it about unrequited love that makes us want to chase after it more?
It’s because we have this “idealized version” of the person we see and this “hope” that one day if we work hard to love this person that they will become that “idealized person” for us.
Reality Check. That person does not like you enough to be in a committed relationship with you, and you are only opening yourself up to more pain and disappointment.
Do you want to know how you can move on from this unrequited love?
Start being honest with yourself. Stop feeding yourself lies and imaginative dreams where this person is…